I’ve noticed this strange phenomenon: some people enter the chat room and, guess what? They don’t chat! To me it’s kind of like going to a restaurant and not eating. After some thought I’ve concluded some of our guests may be new to chat rooms and feel awkward about joining the fray. This is understandable. To a new person it may appear those chatting already know each other or are experienced chatters. He or she may think, “I’m really not that interesting. What will I say?” The success of a chat room relies on everyone’s involvement so here are a few tips to help you get over the initial hesitation and to enjoy the art of conversation.
- Take a moment to read the room but don’t wait too long to get involved. It’s best to dive right in rather than to dip your toe in and wait.
- Take an interest in people. Ask a lot of questions like, “Where are you from” “What kind of music do you like?” “Have you read any good books lately?” “What’s your favorite _______?”
- Just be yourself and talk about your interests. Rather than trying to force the conversation, let the conversation come to you.
- Jump in on others’ conversations. For example, if someone mentions a topic you know something about then express your opinion.
- Be polite and encouraging. People warm to kindness.
- Make a note of people you talk to and make it a point to say hello to them the next time you see them. In other words, make friends.
- Avoid complaining, and controversies, if possible. It’s always important to respect people and their views, culture, religion, and so on. If you don’t understand something just ask.
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to get the hang of chatting once you try these simple suggestions. After you build your confidence chatting will become second nature to you. Now let’s get chatting > Chat Now!